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No Longer An Angry Mum

 

I used to struggle a lot with my temper towards my children, especially my eldest boy, in the area of his studies. During the run–up to exams, daily blow–ups were a fixture in our household.

After every incident, I would pray and ask God to change me. At that time, we were still relatively new to New Creation Church. I would still deal with sin the same way I was taught in the past. I would confess my sin to God, and ask for His forgiveness. Then, I would vow not to do it again.

I employed all kinds of strategies to try and stop losing my temper by counting to 10, taking deep breaths, leaving the room, screaming into a pillow and beating up a pillow. I even made a poster for my children to wave in front of my face. It read, “Mummy, you are raising your voice! Please leave the room NOW to cool down!” Needless to say, none of these worked for long.

I spent a lot of time after each relapse wondering why God was not answering my prayer and changing me. This sense of failure added to the guilt and worries I had over the impact of my actions and my son’s studies, and these led to even more anger outbursts. I dreaded the year my son had to take his Primary School Leaving Examinations (PSLE). I couldn’t bear to think how I would turn out when I was already so out of control in a normal year.

Now that we are seven months into the PSLE year, it suddenly occurred to me that this year has been incredibly peaceful! The exam is just two months away and I couldn’t quite believe it. Even my children and husband all agreed that my temper had improved a lot this year.

The truth of the matter is, sometime in the middle of last year, my family faced with new challenges that took my mind off my temper problem. The challenges were so overwhelming that I desperately sought Jesus in order to cope. I began to play Pastor Prince’s sermons regularly in the car and also read regularly from grace–based devotionals and the Psalms, and declared out loud that I am the righteousness of God in Christ whenever I felt fearful.

These constant reminders of Christ’s finished work, His unceasing love and my unassailable position in Him, had given me such peace, security and joy to face all the challenges. This deep peace even extended to the area of my son’s studies. I have not used any of those strategies to control my temper this year because the things that used to rouse my anger easily in the past, no longer made me angry.

Because of the challenges, I had to return to work and had even less time to guide my boy in his studies. To counter my anxiety over this, we took to praying together in the car every morning when I sent my children to school. We would start by reminding ourselves of what Jesus has done, and of our righteousness in Him. We would also remind ourselves that all the blessings Jesus deserves, we now receive because of His finished work and that His supply of grace is never–ending. Then, we would pray for God to give my son the desire to study and for God to empower him to act out this desire.

For Chinese language, my son’s weakest subject, we would remind ourselves that God created the Chinese language and that He is the best speaker and writer of it in the whole universe, and because He is with my son, he can draw from Him whenever he needs guidance. Praying daily had really contributed to the peace I had over the exams.

It is very clear to me now that when I was preoccupied with my temper problem and trying by my efforts to overcome it, I was bound to fail. Victory only came when I was no longer focused on the problem, not even on trying to solve it, but focused instead on Jesus and His finished work. All glory be to God!

Thank you, Pastor Prince and New Creation Church for teaching so clearly about God’s grace.

 


The writer has requested anonymity.

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Restoration in Relationship with Son

 

2011 was a very challenging year for me. It was the year my son went through a rebellious stage. To top it off, he was sitting for his Primary School Leaving Examinations (PSLE) that year.

In the end, he scored badly for his exams and ended up in the Normal Academic stream. At that time, it was like the end of the world for me! I couldn’t accept the result, and started to blame God for allowing such a thing to happen. Knowing that he had disappointed me greatly, my son felt condemned and withdrew himself from me and this strained our relationship.

Weeks after the release of the results, while I was still upset with God, Pastor Lawrence Lim preached a message that taught us how we ought to respond in the midst of our disappointments and challenges. He reminded us not to judge God’s love based on what we were going through but to judge His love based on the cross of Jesus.

There and then, I realised how self–centred I had been for being angry with God for not getting what I wanted. I was totally ashamed of myself. I then repented and heard God telling me not to use the world’s standard of success on my son. Since He was the one who created him, how would He love him less and not want him to be successful in life? He wanted me to trust in Him, let go and rest in Him.

When my son entered Secondary 1, I learnt to parent with grace. I also began to see that education isn’t everything in life but letting our children encounter Jesus is top priority. My desire for my son was then changed from wanting him to do well academically to him having Jesus and loving church.

For this, I want to thank God for placing us in New Creation Church. After attending DARE, the youth group for secondary school students, my son began to change for the better. I am amazed to hear positive comments from his leaders about him and see how much he had grown in his walk with the Lord. I knew it had to be God.

In spite of all these, my relationship with my son didn’t get any better. At times, I felt guilty and condemned for failing to be a good mum and for not doing enough to maintain a good relationship with my son. But I thank God for the grace message that constantly reminds me to not look to myself and situation but to continue to trust in God and not lose hope.

In 2015, my son had to take another major examination — the “N” Level examination. We were hoping that my son could do well enough to go straight to the polytechnic but both my hubby and I knew that my son wasn’t confident. Nonetheless, after Pastor Prince shared the theme of the year as the year of HIS restoration, I felt led to encourage my son to look to Jesus for his restoration. I also told him that he was not going to the examinations alone but that Jesus was going with him.

Before the end of 2015, we experienced HIS RESTORATION! Not only did Jesus caused my son to perform well, his results enabled him to enter the course of his choice in the polytechnic. Jesus also restored my son’s confidence and most importantly, He restored my relationship with my son! The invisible gap that separated us was broken down!

Praise Jesus and all glory to Him!

 


Abigail

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Son’s Behaviour Improved By Resting In Christ

 

At the start of July this year, we began having difficulties getting our son to attend school and classes. Initially, he only showed reluctance to go to school but we were still able to encourage him to do so.

However, as days passed, he started throwing tantrums in the mornings. The teachers in school even had to make special arrangements so that he need not join the rest of his classmates for assembly.

Towards the end of the term, we learned that he was not joining his classmates for classes and just wanted to keep to himself. The school teachers also told us that the school might consider temporary suspension and he would not be able to perform in the school’s graduation ceremony.

During that period of time, we attended one of the services where Pastor Prince said that if we had any issues with our child, we should just go to our Creator.

We took that promise and committed everything to our Daddy God. We also consulted the teachers at Rock Kidz and the first word from them was rest. This message was consistently reiterated to us as we spoke to different leaders in church. The presence of God was strong and we knew He was taking care of our situation.

What happened after was nothing less than a miraculous transformation. Our boy not only began to show more willingness to go to school, he also got to participate in the year-end graduation concert! By the last school term, he even got a certificate for being an “Angel” in class.

In addition, for the first time, we saw him looking forward to go for his Rock Kidz classes. Truly, God had restored to our family double for our trouble!

Thank you, Pastor Prince for your teachings. Thank you, Pastor Lian for your wonderful warriors! Our kids do not just enjoy the Rock Kidz services, but are growing to be rock-solid kids.

 


The writer has requested anonymity.

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